"disproportionately affected is meant to call out society to champion some movement for equity" is a great take on noting what's left unsaid.

I was surprised when you first noted that aid to your daughter was patronizing, as I had assumed it was genuine. That could be a fresh way of pointing out what the privileged (like me?) wouldn't notice...or it might simply be that I haven't played sports enough to think of it. As long as people don't jump to conclusions.